How many of us have dreams and goals and aspire to be someone or have something but continuously put it off for another day? We are either inhibited by fear or we can tap into our fears and transform them into a catalyst that will propel us full speed ahead towards our goals.
“What would you do if you knew that you would not fail, if you knew that you would succeed?” I love this quote because it reminds me day after day that wasting time will not get me closer to my goals, nor closer to my dreams nor my aspirations.
Why do we allow fear to hinder us? What is our fear of? Is it that we are afraid that we will fail or is it that we are afraid that we will succeed? I ask this question because sometimes the truth is that we are scared of change, even if that change is aligned with our goals and aspirations. Sometimes we stay stagnant because of the fear of the unknown. Often times we are indeed fearful to succeed. You see if we continue to stay in our current circumstance, our situation, our comfort level then our complacency is evident of our being okay in not being challenged. We become complacent in our fear of the unknown and therefore reject the possibility of going forth and pursuing a life change that is well worth our time, effort and dedication. We can then only hope and wish and ponder on what life would be like if we took the step that is required, but in actuality we have no intention of taking the next step. Why? For this response I would like to quote Marrianne Wilson’s poem:
It is our light not our darkness that most frightens us
Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate.
Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.
It is our light not our darkness that most frightens us.
We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous,
talented and fabulous?
Actually, who are you not to be?
You are a child of God.
Your playing small does not serve the world.
There’s nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other
people won’t feel insecure around you.
We were born to make manifest the glory of
God that is within us.
It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone.
And as we let our own light shine,
we unconsciously give other people
permission to do the same.
As we are liberated from our own fear,
Our presence automatically liberates others.
I believe that this poem says it all. Some of us live as if we are waiting for permission to live our lives, permission to go forth in the pursuit of our dreams and happiness. The inevitable truth is some will live out their entire lives on the sidelines waiting for someone to give them the permission to pursue their dreams, permission to be happy, permission to use their God given talents and be a light in this world through their skills and determination.
I must admit, for a while, I, myself found myself standing on the sidelines, waiting for someone to tell me that it was okay to follow my dreams, that I did have talent, that I did not have to be fearful of living to my fullest capacity. The problem with this obviously is that you are giving someone else the power to dictate the direction your life should go in, whether it is suitable or acceptable and in turn asking them if the end result, your life, a success. The good news is I am here to tell you that you don’t need to let fear govern, rule, dictate or control your life.
“It’s okay to be scared as long as your courage outweighs your fear”. I heard this quote over and over on a network movie over the weekend and it resonated with me. It’s okay to be scared, it’s okay to feel unsure, uneasy and uncertain, after all we are all humans.
But it is a great disservice to live your life as if someone else had to validate your worth.
Do you want permission? Do you need it? Well hunny, you’re alive right? God already gave you permission. God already validated your worth. Those dreams and goals and aspirations that you have in you…. Those were planted there by him. You have God given talents that were given to you since birth. To allow fear to hinder you from utilizing them is a disservice to yourself, to others and to God himself.
“It’s okay to be scared as long as your courage outweighs your fear.”
Don’t live your life on the sideline watching everyone else take the steps that you could have taken, days, weeks, months even years ago. One thing is certain, we are not promised tomorrow. If fear is inhibiting you then call it out by name, renounce it, hand it over to God. Put on your big kid undies and gain your courage. This is your life. Make it count!!